It’s not about me. Rick Warren taught me that and changed my life with this truth.
In his book The Purpose Driven Life (2002), Pastor Warren says:
It’s not about you. The purpose of your life is far greater than your own personal fulfillment, your peace of mind, or even your happiness. If you want to know why you were placed on this planet, you must begin with God. You were born by his purpose and for his purpose.
So if it’s not about me, then it must be about you. And you. And you. And everyone else on this planet.
One of the best and most important ways we can serve those around us is to ENCOURAGE them.
E nergize: Share your energy. You may be surprised to see the spark of energy in another person’s response to you.
N urture: Be kind, gentle, caring, sensitive — all the ways you like others to treat you.
C ompliment: Place the accent on the positive aspects of the other person. Let them know what you truly like and appreciate about them.
O ptimism: Look on the bright and best side of everything. Help the other person see that, too.
U plift: Be the bright spot in a discouraged person’s day. They don’t need you to point out what’s wrong or difficult. They are doing that for themselves.
R emind: Bring back the good memories, the fun times, the successes for the other person. Let them know you are there for them. Even if you’ve said it all before, say it again.
A ssure: When another person needs help, come alongside and be there for them. Even if they try to push you away. Be available.
G od’s Word: Take every opportunity to bring others into God’s Word. Even if it’s a familiar passage, like Psalm 23 or The Lord’s Prayer, keep sharing the truth that you are sure about.
E xtend: Share with others: yourself, your gifts and talents, your time. Whether it’s 5 minutes or 5 days, give them the gift of your undistracted attention.
As Pastor Chuck Swindoll reminds us: “Every time we encourage someone, we give them a transfusion of courage.”
Be an encourager, and let God work his healing through you.
“So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing” (1 Thessalonians 5:11).
Laura Warfel is a widow, writer, and follower of Jesus Christ. Her greatest joy is to bring others along with her on her faith journey. In 2015, because of the encouragement of the Launch Out Conference and Jon Acuff, she launched More Than A Widow on Facebook and Twitter. Today she blogs, tweets, and posts to help widows (and those who know them) find encouragement, hope, and resources for the journey. Her goal is to help all widows live beyond the label and live as more than a widow.
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