Best Wedding Gift You Can Give

It’s Saturday. I’m sitting in my car, parked in my driveway. I’m getting ready to go to a wedding. Two of my friends, a lovely young couple, are getting married today.

I have to admit it. Weddings are still hard for me. That has nothing to do with the couple who is getting married. I’m so happy for them. For their commitment to get married and share life together.

The reason weddings are hard for me is because I feel sad about the life my husband Gene and I didn’t get to finish.

Gene’s illness took away a lot of the good times we should have shared together. When he passed away, the rest of those possibilities disappeared.

Gene and Laura, 1995 (Photo by Steve Hughey)

Gene and Laura, 1995 (Photo by Steve Hughey)

So when I ask myself
Why? 
or
What’s left for me?
God gives me a lot of answers.

My Mom and Dad, Rex and Helen, 1952                  My sister Barb and brother-in-law Bruce, 1976

My Mom and Dad, Rex and Helen, 1952                  My sister Barb and brother-in-law Bruce, 1976

Today, the answer He is giving me is this:
Go and celebrate with your friends. Be part of the beginning of their life together as husband and wife.
And give them a gift. The best gift. Pray for them.

Pray for your friends and family members who are engaged, getting married soon, and already married. Pray for God’s provision for them. Pray for God’s protection over them and their marriages.

My kids by marriage (L to R): Beth and her husband, Jeremy, 2001; Will and his wife, Alana, 2006; Scott and his wife, Meggan, 2009

My kids by marriage (L to R): Beth and her husband, Jeremy, 2001; Will and his wife, Alana, 2006; Scott and his wife, Meggan, 2009

I’m more than a widow. And that’s one of the many reasons I’m still here. To pray for those I love.

Okay, I’m ready to go now. I mean, really. I didn’t put on make-up and heals for nothing!


Laura Warfel is a widow, writer, and follower of Jesus Christ. Her greatest joy is to bring others along with her on her faith journey. In 2015, because of the encouragement of the Launch Out Conference and Jon Acuff, she launched More Than A Widow on Facebook and Twitter. Today she blogs, tweets, and posts to help widows (and those who know them) find encouragement, hope, and resources for the journey. Her goal is to help all widows live beyond the label and live as more than a widow.
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