Grit, Part 2

“Star Trek.” To explore strange new worlds. To seek out new life and new civilizations. To boldly go where no one has gone before. Now, that takes grit!

I’ll admit it. I’m a huge Star Trek fan. Watching Captain Kirk and his crew zoom around the universe at warp speed and face the unknown, week after week, may have actually taught me a lot about grit.

Almost every week, the Enterprise was flying at, into, or through something. A planet, a star, a meteor shower, a cloud, an alien. And almost every time, Captain Kirk ordered the crew to keep flying. Right into whatever it was.

Photo by Deb Hunt

Photo by Deb Hunt

Grit will take you places you never thought you could go. Get you through situations you never thought you’d have to face. Grit will get you out of the impossible and into the possible.

Grit is a perfect blend of courage, strength, faith, determination with a dash of daring and a teaspoon of stubbornness. It simmers on low, sometimes for a long time, and then bubbles up at just the right time.

My One Word for 2016 is GRIT. I’ve needed grit a lot this year. A lot. Like when my plans didn’t match up with God’s plans for me. Or when the enemy came knocking on my door. Several times. Or when I looked at my unbalanced balance sheet for the 100th time.

Photo by Barb Dorris

Photo by Barb Dorris

God is so faithful, even when I’m not. God keeps inspiring and providing just what I need, just when I need it.

I’ve seen a lot of other widows who needed grit this year, too. I’ve watched them tap into this inner resource, and I’ve been amazed at the difference in their lives.

Some have started dating again. Started foundations in memory of their late husbands. Committed to exercise and running marathons. Written books and blogs. Returned to work after a time of rest and grieving. Raised children on their own. Taken trips alone to see things they’ve never seen before. Finally been able to spend more time with other people than they spend alone. 

Regardless of their assignments and achievements, each one has shown me what it means to be more than a widow. And I think grit is what makes the difference. The difference between existing and living.

“I also pray that you will understand the incredible greatness of God’s power for us who believe in him. This is the same mighty power that raised Christ from the dead and seated him in the place of honor at God’s right hand in the heavenly realms. Now he is far above any ruler or authority or power or leader of anything else ― not only in this world but also in the world to come. God has put all things under the authority of Christ …” (Ephesians 1:19-22).

Ahead warp factor 1, Mr. Sulu.

Do you have grit? How do you know you do? Do you know a widow who has grit? How can you tell? Share with us here. We can learn from one another.


Laura Warfel is a widow, writer, and follower of Jesus Christ. Her greatest joy is to bring others along with her on her faith journey. In 2015, because of the encouragement of the Launch Out Conference and Jon Acuff, she launched More Than A Widow on Facebook and Twitter. Today she blogs, tweets, and posts to help widows (and those who know them) find encouragement, hope, and resources for the journey. Her goal is to help all widows live beyond the label and live as more than a widow.
Copyright © 2016 by Laura Warfel