I’m a widow. That’s still hard for me to say. I didn’t want to be a widow. For a while, I tried to hide that fact. Even from myself. I fooled myself into thinking it was only a temporary condition.
Then, God showed me his truth: I am more than a widow. And he showed me that he needs me to help him care for other widows. So that’s what I’m doing now. Thirteen years after losing my husband Gene.
Here are some things I’ve learned about how to be more than a widow. If you’re a widow, I hope these are helpful for you. If you know a widow, please share these with her.
Live beyond the label. Our culture may try to define who you are as a widow. Remember that besides being a widow, you have many other parts of who you are. You are a child of God, loved and saved by him. You might also be a mom, grandma, sister, aunt, mentor, friend, artist, writer, employee. And so much more. Embrace all that you are, the person God has created you to be.
Be your true self. Even without your husband, you still have the gifts and talents that God placed inside you. Give yourself permission to do the things you love to do, the things you are good at doing. You may also discover new parts of yourself as you live this new version of your life. Let yourself learn and grow.
Serve others. Ask God to use you and work through you where and when he needs you. Make yourself available. Give the gift of your time to others. Be an active part of your church family. Get involved in your community. Blessings await.
Let go of hurt and anger. Sometimes it’s easy to withdraw into the pain of loss. As my pastor, Jason Perry, reminds us: “The enemy loves to cater pity parties.” Don’t even go there! The more love ― especially God’s love for you ― that you allow into your life, the less room there is for hurt and anger to fester.
Say thank you to God for each blessing you receive. When you spend time acknowledging the positives in your life, you’ll have less and less time to focus on the negatives.
Stand on and in the promises of God’s Word. Psalm 121 sustains and encourages me every time I read it. I’m sure you have favorite Bible verses that help you. Read them aloud every chance you get.
If you need more encouragement in your life as a widow, you’ll find it at More Than A Widow with Laura Warfel on Facebook.
You are more than a widow. Live your life on purpose instead of just existing. God has more for you to do.