How a Widow Minds Her Ps and Qs

Life as a widow has many strange turns, unexpected bumps, dangerous potholes, and GPS dead zones. All along the way, I constantly have a choice. Am I going to choose to follow my stubborn, human way or God’s perfect, divine way? What will the order of this (and every) day be for this widow? 

Here are some Ps and Qs I don’t mind minding as I travel life’s road each day. And thanks to my friend Jenny Schoenwetter for inspiring this idea.

Ever felt scared about a pile of bills, an empty refrigerator, a car that won’t run, a child who won’t return your texts or voicemails? Me too. We are not alone. Even in our have-everything-and-have-it-now U.S. culture, we are going to have times when we feel like we don’t have enough. But guess what! We have the ultimate provider who never runs out of resources. Who loves us so much that he is ready to give us everything we need. Emphasis on need. He gives from his abundance, even when we don’t ask.
“And God will generously provide all you need. Then you will always have everything you need and plenty left over to share with others” (2 Corinthians 9:8).

I still remember the first night I slept alone in my own apartment in a new city. I was lying there in bed, staring at the ceiling, and feeling the panic start to bubble up inside me. I knew I had two choices. I could let the fear overtake me and claim my peace. Or I could give my fear to God and claim my victory. I chose victory! And I still do. God is our vigilant protector who never leaves or sleeps.
“For you are my hiding place; you protect me from trouble. You surround me with songs of victory” (Psalm 32:7).

Our world has many messages for us about the reasons why we are here. Pleasure is a big one. So are relationships. So are acquisition and influence. But when we follow Jesus, we learn that we have only one purpose: to share the Gospel. Maybe all the other supposed purposes are just a way for us to avoid our real purpose.
“You can make many plans, but the Lord’s purpose will prevail” (Proverbs 19:21).

In the eyes of the world, my life as a non-couple is often seen as less than wonderful. Sometimes it’s easy for the “if-onlys” or “whys” to creep in. I love how so many writers of the New Testament work so hard to debunk this for me! I’m a child of the King. What more can I ask or need in this life or for all eternity?
“So you have not received a spirit that makes you fearful slaves. Instead, you received God’s Spirit when he adopted you as his own children. Now we call him, ‘Abba, Father.’ For his Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we are God’s children. And since we are his children, we are his heirs. In fact, together with Christ we are heirs of God’s glory” (Romans 8:15-17).

There are so many noisy distractions in our world. And one of the noisiest is my mind! Sometimes the more I focus on being quiet with the Lord, the noisier my thoughts become. When distracting thoughts interrupt the quiet I’m trying to keep, I pray for them to pass and ask God to help me focus on him once again.
“So they [Jesus and his disciples] left by boat for a quiet place, where they could be alone” (Mark 6:32).

I’m not a solo. I’m part of a quartet: Father, Son, Holy Spirit taking care of me. When I’m feeling alone or abandoned, I just call on the Big Three! 
“Now all of us can come to the Father through the same Holy Spirit because of what Christ has done for us” (Ephesians 2:18).

Consider your Ps and Qs, the non-negotiables in your life as a believer in Christ. As a widow. As a human being. God has so much more for you.

Laura Warfel is a widow, writer, and follower of Jesus Christ. Her greatest joy is to bring others along with her on her faith journey. In 2015, because of the encouragement of the Launch Out Conference and Jon Acuff, she launched More Than A Widow on Facebook and Twitter. Today she blogs, tweets, and posts to help widows (and those who know them) find encouragement, hope, and resources for the journey. Her goal is to help all widows live beyond the label and live as more than a widow.
Copyright © 2017 by Laura Warfel